Avoiding Projections
By: Cherie Scheurich, Ph.D., LPC, CHLC
Projection is the energy emitted outward from thoughts. There are positive projections and negative projections. When you are feeling happy, your projection is a high frequency that attracts similar high energy identification (agreement) responses. When you have fear projections (low self-esteem or feeling “not good enough”), your energy frequency is low and you attract negative energy identifications back to yourself. In general, you get back what you give out. But again this is a choice once you become aware of thought energy.
Sometimes our positive projections can be challenged with another’s negative projections. You always have the choice whether or not to identify with someone else’s projection without automatically reacting. If you are sleeping through life – just reacting via automatic thoughts, you will probably identify with others’ negative projections in most cases. The point is that you have the power to step back when you sense someone else’s negative projections and consciously choose not to identify (give back) that energy.
If you have a history of having low self-esteem, you most likely have been projecting negative “not good enough” energy outward. Since you always get back what you give out, how do you expect anyone to feel any differently about you than you feel about yourself? If you don’t love you, why should anyone else? Energy always attracts like energy. If you are giving out negative energy (consciously or unconsciously) this is exactly what you will get back. Other people are not making you feel badly, YOU are making you feel bad.
You have taught others how to treat you with your thoughts about yourself and your energy projections. When you practice your affirmations and change the focus of your brain, you will notice that other people will start giving back a new energy. Moreover, if you notice someone else projecting negative energy, it is your choice whether or not you choose to give them back what they are projecting. If someone projects anger on to you, you can choose to consciously give back love. You will see how quickly this can turn the situation around.
Not only will you remain your own positive energy, thoughts and feelings, but you are likely to change the other person’s energy to positive as well. You cannot change anyone except yourself. However, when you respond from conscious choice instead of reactivity, you are much more likely to get the outcome you want. Focus on “consciously responding” instead of “reacting.”
You have the power to change yourself in response to others. This might take some time in the beginning especially with people you already have an established relationship with. Others already have a set opinion of how you react and what your projection energy feels like. When you change it, others will not know what to expect from you. They may tell you that you are changing and they don’t like it. This is very common. You will know you are making progress when others can no longer predict your negative energy. Other people’s brains will feel confused and uncomfortable when they cannot predict how you are thinking or acting anymore. That’s okay. They’ll get used to your new way of thinking positively in time. Keep practicing and experimenting with your own energy. Keep up those affirmations and visualize your success with gratitude. Be grateful when others tell you that you are changing. Isn’t that your goal, anyway? Keep increasing your confidence level all the time. You have the power to change yourself!
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