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Antisocial Personality Disorder

Jeff — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 03:21:29 +0000

There are many people who have called me antisocial and I always thought they were correct. At least until I read this article. While I don’t have antisocial personality disorder I don’t know what it is that I do have. I don’t like being around to many people. Even if it’s people I know I don’t want to many around me at once.

Yes, I go out and eat, go to WalMart, shows, stores, etc. just like normal people. I’m not afraid of people and I deal with them beter than most people. I just don’t like to be around them. I’ve required great amounts of alone time all of my life and if I don’t get it I get really crabby. I’d have been happy as a hermit. So, while I can’t name what I have I can tell you it’s not antisocial personality disorder. Read the rest to see why.

Every year, I host a St. Patrick’s Day party that all of my friends and family members really enjoy. This past year, I was talking to one of my friends whose husband never comes to the party and I asked her if everything was all right. She said that everything was fine, that he just had antisocial personality disorder and had a difficult time being around a lot of people.

As a psychology major in college, I wanted to explain to her what I sincerely hoped was a misuse of the phrase antisocial personality disorder.

When most people say that another person is antisocial, they mean that the person prefers his own company. He would rather be by himself than around other people and pretty much avoids situations where he has to socialize.

That seems to have become a fairly common term for more introverted and reclusive people, and I don’t see anything wrong with that, per se. However, there is a big difference in being antisocial in the common sense of the word and having antisocial personality disorder.

A person with antisocial personality disorder essentially has no regard for human life. He or she does not feel a sense of duty to conform to laws or social mores, and shows absolutely no remorse for the pain or harm he or she causes to others.

One of my professors gave an example of antisocial personality disorder one time as a man going into his workplace and shooting everyone there because he had a grudge against one employee. When asked why he shot at everyone in the room, he might respond by saying that he had to make sure he got his intended target.

If pressed further about all of the lives he has disrupted or destroyed, and the innocent people who had nothing to do with his grudge, he might respond by shrugging and saying they shouldn’t have been there. There is simply no regard or respect for other people with antisocial personality disorder.

I have to laugh sometimes, consequently, when someone will tell me that a friend or loved one is antisocial because they “don’t do crowds.” I am always tempted to say that they better hope he or she is not antisocial, or there could be a disastrous outcome.

Antisocial personality disorder is a serious, rare condition that should not be taken lightly. It is not the same as what many people refer to as being “antisocial,” and I think that it is important that a distinction is made between the two. One is a serious mental health disorder that can potentially be dangerous, while the other is a character trait that most of us simply think of as being shy.

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Abnormal Psychology

Jeff — Sat, 08 May 2010 17:51:05 +0000

I majored in psychology when I was in college and took a number of courses in the subject, but the one that always stands out to me the most, and the one that has best served me over the years, was Abnormal Psychology.

It was a class devoted specifically to the study of psychological disorders and psychoses and was absolutely fascinating. Abnormal psychology not only taught me about such things as depression, anti-social personality disorder and schizophrenia, but it also showed me how to recognize possible symptoms of psychological disorders in other people.

I took the class in my junior year as it was required for my degree, and I immediately became enthralled by the course. Abnormal psychology was so interesting, in fact, that I would often neglect my studies in other classes because I was spending all of my time reading and researching the material in that class.

One of the things that I found most interesting was the number of people who were in the course that were not psychology majors. Several members of the class were English, education and even music majors, but had just thought that the class sounded like it would fun and opted to enroll in it as an elective.

I met up with one of those friends a few years ago at a local bar and grill, and we talked about the course 10 years after we had graduated and moved on with our lives. She was now a band director for a middle school, but said she was always thankful that she had taken that class because it allowed her to recognize psychological problems that some of her students, and even some of their parents, were having.

I think what I found so appealing about abnormal psychology was that it is really the crux of what psychologists do. It taught me why people who suffer from mental health disorders have the problems they do, whether it is a chemical imbalance and need need for medical treatment, or a behavioral disorder, and can be addressed with behavior modification and therapy.

I remember speaking to the professor of the class about how much I enjoyed the course and how fascinating it was to me, and he confessed that out of all of the classes he taught, abnormal psychology was his favorite as well. He said that he had seen more students have that moment of confirmation that they had chosen the right major in that class than in any other he had ever taught.

For me, the abnormal psychology class is one that I still look back on as the course that made me realize had had selected the right course of study. It taught me more about the field of psychology than any other class, and I will still go back and read from the courses’ textbook from time to time.

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How to get her back – getting back with your ex

Jeff — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:40:22 +0000

How to get her back after an angry fight can be hard. Getting back with your ex is possible but it’s not always easy to do. The first thing to do is let her get over her anger to win your ex back to your arms. The big question is how do you do this and start working on getting back with your ex.

What was she angry about? Is she angry at you? Examine what happened that set the fight or argument off when she said she wanted to breakup with you. Going back over it should give you some good clues on what she wants from you and why she doesn’t want you anymore.

The first thing to do to get her back is after the angry moments, don’t call, her don’t send her begging text messages, do whine to her or cry and tell her you can’t live without her. All those things will just irritate your ex and she will harden her position and then you will have very little chance of winning her back.

Take at least a week or more before having any contact with her. Heh, you can do what I used to do and the day after the breakup I’d go on a weeks vacation. Of course that was before cell phones so there was no way to contact me. While you are away from her she may come back to her senses and want you to take her back. It does happen.

However, if she calls and you answer just be polite, be firm and find an acceptable excuse to get off the phone with her as soon as possible. Don’t promise her anything, don’t say anything you don’t have to and hang up as quickly as you can. This tells her you have already moved on and aren’t worrying about getting back with her. It will make her think about you that much more.

If she calls and leaves messages or texts you don’t reply and don’t listen to the messages as more than likely she’s still bitchy and mad and will upset you all over again and then you won’t be able to think clearly either.

You see, when someone gets totally angry like that it can take 24-48 hours to get all the the chemicals and hormones the brain dumps into the body during a angry breakup. That’s the best reason not to talk to her or even think about how to win her back for at least a week. When the chemicals and hormones are gone she will be more receptive. You just have to wait for the anger to truly be gone.

Getting back with your ex may be more trouble than it’s worth if you have frequent breakups. You should examine the relationship and what you want out of it before you do anything else. Of course I’m not a relationship expert. Lots of relationship experience tho and it seems I learned all of it the hard way. However, what worked to get my ex back, or ex’s back may not work for you. All women are different. That’s why, if you’re serious about getting her back you need to get some expert advice rather than my amateur experience.

There’s a book you might want to read that can help you greatly if you don’t know how to get her back. How to get your girl back written by a guy named Michael Webb.

He has appeared on over 500 radio and television shows including Oprah, Men are From Mars/ Women are From Venus, NBC News, 700 Club, The Other Half, Iyanla, To Tell the Truth and FOX News. He has been featured in practically every major newspaper in the United States and is regularly mentioned in the nation’s top magazines like Men’s Health, Bridal Guide, Cosmopolitan, New Man, Women’s Day, Family Circle and dozens others.

I’d say that makes him more than qualified to help you win your ex back. After all, if he doesn’t know how to get her back you’re about out of luck. Check it out now here at get your girl back as it will help you win her back.