Anger management and reduction » relationships http://www.e-angermanagement.com How anger management can help you reduce stress and have a happier life. Sun, 15 Jan 2012 20:58:26 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Antisocial Personality Disorder http://www.e-angermanagement.com/anger/antisocial-personality-disorder/ http://www.e-angermanagement.com/anger/antisocial-personality-disorder/#comments Mon, 14 Feb 2011 03:21:29 +0000 Jeff http://www.e-angermanagement.com/?p=413 There are many people who have called me antisocial and I always thought they were correct. At least until I read this article. While I don’t have antisocial personality disorder I don’t know what it is that I do have. I don’t like being around to many people. Even if it’s people I know I [...]]]> There are many people who have called me antisocial and I always thought they were correct. At least until I read this article. While I don’t have antisocial personality disorder I don’t know what it is that I do have. I don’t like being around to many people. Even if it’s people I know I don’t want to many around me at once.

Yes, I go out and eat, go to WalMart, shows, stores, etc. just like normal people. I’m not afraid of people and I deal with them beter than most people. I just don’t like to be around them. I’ve required great amounts of alone time all of my life and if I don’t get it I get really crabby. I’d have been happy as a hermit. So, while I can’t name what I have I can tell you it’s not antisocial personality disorder. Read the rest to see why.

Every year, I host a St. Patrick’s Day party that all of my friends and family members really enjoy. This past year, I was talking to one of my friends whose husband never comes to the party and I asked her if everything was all right. She said that everything was fine, that he just had antisocial personality disorder and had a difficult time being around a lot of people.

As a psychology major in college, I wanted to explain to her what I sincerely hoped was a misuse of the phrase antisocial personality disorder.

When most people say that another person is antisocial, they mean that the person prefers his own company. He would rather be by himself than around other people and pretty much avoids situations where he has to socialize.

That seems to have become a fairly common term for more introverted and reclusive people, and I don’t see anything wrong with that, per se. However, there is a big difference in being antisocial in the common sense of the word and having antisocial personality disorder.

A person with antisocial personality disorder essentially has no regard for human life. He or she does not feel a sense of duty to conform to laws or social mores, and shows absolutely no remorse for the pain or harm he or she causes to others.

One of my professors gave an example of antisocial personality disorder one time as a man going into his workplace and shooting everyone there because he had a grudge against one employee. When asked why he shot at everyone in the room, he might respond by saying that he had to make sure he got his intended target.

If pressed further about all of the lives he has disrupted or destroyed, and the innocent people who had nothing to do with his grudge, he might respond by shrugging and saying they shouldn’t have been there. There is simply no regard or respect for other people with antisocial personality disorder.


I have to laugh sometimes, consequently, when someone will tell me that a friend or loved one is antisocial because they “don’t do crowds.” I am always tempted to say that they better hope he or she is not antisocial, or there could be a disastrous outcome.

Antisocial personality disorder is a serious, rare condition that should not be taken lightly. It is not the same as what many people refer to as being “antisocial,” and I think that it is important that a distinction is made between the two. One is a serious mental health disorder that can potentially be dangerous, while the other is a character trait that most of us simply think of as being shy.

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]]> http://www.e-angermanagement.com/anger/antisocial-personality-disorder/feed/ 0 Controlling Your Anger for a Healthier Life http://www.e-angermanagement.com/anger/controlling-your-anger-for-a-healthier-life/ http://www.e-angermanagement.com/anger/controlling-your-anger-for-a-healthier-life/#comments Wed, 09 Feb 2011 23:04:52 +0000 Jeff http://www.e-angermanagement.com/?p=411 By Marielys Camacho Reyes

It is well-known that one of the biggest and main obstacles in life for career and personal accomplishment is a destructive type of emotion called ANGER. An uncontrolled and unmanaged anger can easily get us in a lot of trouble and can also destroy relationships, dreams, and aspirations. Feeling angry about something [...]]]> By Marielys Camacho Reyes

It is well-known that one of the biggest and main obstacles in life for career and personal accomplishment is a destructive type of emotion called ANGER. An uncontrolled and unmanaged anger can easily get us in a lot of trouble and can also destroy relationships, dreams, and aspirations. Feeling angry about something bad that just happened to us or when someone has treated us badly is a completely normal reaction of human beings, but letting our anger control our lives is not a healthy or an intelligent decision.

Having difficulties controlling our anger can lead us to develop medical problems and can also increase the risk of developing mental issues, including depression, substance and alcohol abuse, chronic anxiety, and eating disorders.

Controlling our anger or appropriately expressing it is not an easy task, but it can be done if we put in practice some anger management techniques. Next time you start feeling angry or really upset about something; STOP, take a deep breath, get yourself out of the situation that made you angry, and after you are calmed down and relaxed, do the following:

1) Identify the situation that made you angry.

2) Once you have identified what or who made you angry, try to find or identify a possible solution for the issue in hand without accusing or pointing fingers.

3) After identifying and implementing a possible solution, move away from the issue and do not hold grudges.

4) Forgive and forget.

Following these simple techniques every time you feel angry will help you control and/or appropriately express your anger and not let it affect or control your life or the lives of those around you. If after practicing these techniques you feel that your anger is out of control or is having a negative impact in your life,


I encourage you to visit a mental health professional who can help you and guide you to develop more personalized anger management techniques that in one way or another will help you live a positive, healthy, and “serene” life.

Remember, “life is ten percent what happens to us and ninety percent how we react and deal with the situation.” Lou Holtz

Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a graduate Psychology student at the University of Phoenix, a Career Coaching student at the Coach Training Alliance, and a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF). If you want more information about Career Coaching, visit her website at http://www.mcrcareerdevelopmentcoaching.com

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If you know someone who seems a bit secretive about their home life, and [...]]]> Are you in an abusive relationship? Would you like to leave that relationship but you can’t seem to do it. Read the rest of this article to find out why some people find it very hard to leave an abusive relationship.

If you know someone who seems a bit secretive about their home life, and perhaps you notice something is wrong either mentally or psychically, you may suspect that they are living with an abusive spouse or partner. You may be wrong, but you are probably right more often than you think.

You may also spend some time worrying about the person in question and wondering why any person would choose to stay in abuse relationships. The answers are never easy to understand, and often as different as the person in question. Many people in these relationships stay for quite a while and some never leave.

Abuse is about power. The abuser wants to have power over someone, and that person usually ends up being the person they fall in love with, but love for them is different than for someone else. They may also end up being abusive to their children, but more often than not it is the wife (or husband) that bears the brunt of abuse in these types of abuse relationships. Even when abuse is going on in the marriage relationship the children are spared any abuse, though they may witness mom or dad being abused, which can turn them into abusers in the future.

Why do some people stay in abuse relationships? Sometimes it is the children that keeps them there. They don’t want to take the children from a parent that may be very good to them and with them. They may also find it harder to pack up and leave knowing they are going to have to go through messy child custody issues with the abuser once the relationship has been severed. They fear the abuser will use the children against them and try to take their children away.


Some stay in abuse relationships because they fear they will be killed if they try to go away. Abuse is not just about hitting someone. It is also about mental control. Intimidation is used to make the victim fear the abuser and through this they control whatever they do or do not do. There are many people in abuse relationships that actually believe that they deserve the abuse. This is because the abuser has told them that for so long that they start to believe it. They feel something must be wrong with them for someone that is supposed to love them to treat them so badly. They often don’t consider that the problem lies with the other person.


Many men and women in abuse relationships will stay simply because they know it can be worse on them to leave. They fear being stalked, hurt, or even killed if they were to dare to leave. These fears are valid. However, that does not mean they should stay. If you or someone you know is in abuse relationships, there are places to go that are safe. Most communities have safe houses and plans in place to help victims of domestic violence and other types of abuse. Don’t wait around to die. Get out, find safety, and feel what it really means to be alive.

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