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Antisocial Personality Disorder

Jeff — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 03:21:29 +0000

There are many people who have called me antisocial and I always thought they were correct. At least until I read this article. While I don’t have antisocial personality disorder I don’t know what it is that I do have. I don’t like being around to many people. Even if it’s people I know I don’t want to many around me at once.

Yes, I go out and eat, go to WalMart, shows, stores, etc. just like normal people. I’m not afraid of people and I deal with them beter than most people. I just don’t like to be around them. I’ve required great amounts of alone time all of my life and if I don’t get it I get really crabby. I’d have been happy as a hermit. So, while I can’t name what I have I can tell you it’s not antisocial personality disorder. Read the rest to see why.

Every year, I host a St. Patrick’s Day party that all of my friends and family members really enjoy. This past year, I was talking to one of my friends whose husband never comes to the party and I asked her if everything was all right. She said that everything was fine, that he just had antisocial personality disorder and had a difficult time being around a lot of people.

As a psychology major in college, I wanted to explain to her what I sincerely hoped was a misuse of the phrase antisocial personality disorder.

When most people say that another person is antisocial, they mean that the person prefers his own company. He would rather be by himself than around other people and pretty much avoids situations where he has to socialize.

That seems to have become a fairly common term for more introverted and reclusive people, and I don’t see anything wrong with that, per se. However, there is a big difference in being antisocial in the common sense of the word and having antisocial personality disorder.

A person with antisocial personality disorder essentially has no regard for human life. He or she does not feel a sense of duty to conform to laws or social mores, and shows absolutely no remorse for the pain or harm he or she causes to others.

One of my professors gave an example of antisocial personality disorder one time as a man going into his workplace and shooting everyone there because he had a grudge against one employee. When asked why he shot at everyone in the room, he might respond by saying that he had to make sure he got his intended target.

If pressed further about all of the lives he has disrupted or destroyed, and the innocent people who had nothing to do with his grudge, he might respond by shrugging and saying they shouldn’t have been there. There is simply no regard or respect for other people with antisocial personality disorder.

I have to laugh sometimes, consequently, when someone will tell me that a friend or loved one is antisocial because they “don’t do crowds.” I am always tempted to say that they better hope he or she is not antisocial, or there could be a disastrous outcome.

Antisocial personality disorder is a serious, rare condition that should not be taken lightly. It is not the same as what many people refer to as being “antisocial,” and I think that it is important that a distinction is made between the two. One is a serious mental health disorder that can potentially be dangerous, while the other is a character trait that most of us simply think of as being shy.

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Controlling Your Anger for a Healthier Life

Jeff — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 23:04:52 +0000

By Marielys Camacho Reyes

It is well-known that one of the biggest and main obstacles in life for career and personal accomplishment is a destructive type of emotion called ANGER. An uncontrolled and unmanaged anger can easily get us in a lot of trouble and can also destroy relationships, dreams, and aspirations. Feeling angry about something bad that just happened to us or when someone has treated us badly is a completely normal reaction of human beings, but letting our anger control our lives is not a healthy or an intelligent decision.

Having difficulties controlling our anger can lead us to develop medical problems and can also increase the risk of developing mental issues, including depression, substance and alcohol abuse, chronic anxiety, and eating disorders.

Controlling our anger or appropriately expressing it is not an easy task, but it can be done if we put in practice some anger management techniques. Next time you start feeling angry or really upset about something; STOP, take a deep breath, get yourself out of the situation that made you angry, and after you are calmed down and relaxed, do the following:

1) Identify the situation that made you angry.

2) Once you have identified what or who made you angry, try to find or identify a possible solution for the issue in hand without accusing or pointing fingers.

3) After identifying and implementing a possible solution, move away from the issue and do not hold grudges.

4) Forgive and forget.

Following these simple techniques every time you feel angry will help you control and/or appropriately express your anger and not let it affect or control your life or the lives of those around you. If after practicing these techniques you feel that your anger is out of control or is having a negative impact in your life,

I encourage you to visit a mental health professional who can help you and guide you to develop more personalized anger management techniques that in one way or another will help you live a positive, healthy, and “serene” life.

Remember, “life is ten percent what happens to us and ninety percent how we react and deal with the situation.” Lou Holtz

Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a graduate Psychology student at the University of Phoenix, a Career Coaching student at the Coach Training Alliance, and a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF). If you want more information about Career Coaching, visit her website at http://www.mcrcareerdevelopmentcoaching.com

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Anger Management Techniques for Chronic Anger

Jeff — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 19:56:44 +0000

By Joe James

Looking for some anger management techniques to control chronic anger? If so, you are probably here because you see the destructive effects of out of control anger on your family or work life.

Chronic anger issues can destroy relationships and damage careers. Don’t let this happen to you. You can control your anger or you can let it control you.

Feeling angry at times is perfectly normal but most of us never learned effective anger management techniques when we were growing up and we certainly don’t see good examples in popular media! Yelling, screaming, throwing things or being passive-aggressive may feel good in the moment but they rarely improve the situation in the long run and they leave people feeling guilty, resentful or distant. Instead, try a few of the anger management techniques below, just for a week and see if you don’t like the outcomes.

The next time something makes you really angry, remember that you’re only seeing part of the picture. When we’re really angry, our minds zero in on the negative and ignore the positive aspects of the situation. I’m not saying you have to try to look for the positive side right away but remember that you don’t have all the information necessary to make a good decision at that moment. This is why it’s a good idea to postpone making any major decisions while you are angry.

Walk around the block, count to twenty and take deep breaths to give yourself the time and space needed to calm down before you do anything.

Next try practicing empathy and imagine what the other person may be thinking or feeling in this moment. You don’t have to fully understand their motivations but recognize that they are very likely feeling much anxiety and fear knowing how upset you are.

When you’ve calmed down try to talk about what you are feeling and why. Use “I” statements and try to avoid making them feel guilty or judged by starting sentences with “you always…” or “you know this or that”.

It’s not easy learning how to handle anger in non-destructive ways but it can improve your relationships drastically and make you a healthier, happier person. Learning a few anger management techniques can help turn things around for the better.

Go here to learn more about anger management techniques.

Dr. Joe James is a psychologist who is the developer of many online anger management classes.

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