Anger management and reduction

By Ari Novick, Ph.D.

After teaching for over seven years, it has become apparent why people seek help for better managing anger. The primary reason, above and beyond any other, is that they are hoping that by improving their behavior it will improve an important relationship. These important relationships often involve a spouse, significant other, boyfriend, girlfriend, or other intimate relationship.

Participants will usually say their anger has caused emotional distance between them and the other person and they are hoping to seek ways of improving their interpersonal skills so that the intimacy in their relationship will improve. While anger management alone isn’t going to be the sole source of improving ones sex life, the classes will teach skills that ultimately lead to more closeness between oneself and another. The argument could then be made that increasing skills would improve intimacy.

For example, if anger has caused you to have distance between someone you care about there is slim chance that person will want to be close to you. This is in part because anger creates fear as well as distrust in the recipient. Anger also divides couples because no one likes to be treated with anger.
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By Eddy Kong Wai W

We all know or have an idea as to what anger is. This raw emotion has been the cause of a lot of misery and arguments in the past. It has ripped apart many partnerships, created rifts in friendships, as well as distrust between co-workers and professionals alike. But did you know that when used properly, anger can do the exact opposite of what was mentioned above? Together with rational thought, anger can be used to accomplish things which would otherwise be impossible under normal circumstances, set things straight, as well as get yourself heard, and all without having to step on anyone’s foot.

But controlling your anger might not be as easy as it sounds. Remember that anger can be an addicting emotion. Fostering anger for longer times will result to it eating up all of your other emotions, making you a very aggressive and hostile person that no one wants to be around with. In order to manage your anger you will need to take steps in recognizing it first, and to help you with this, here are the top 5 anger problems symptoms that you should take note of:

Mounting aggression: While there may be nothing wrong with being aggressive, it should be under your control at all times. Observe yourself during emotionally straining or physically threatening times, when you start to feel that you are becoming more and more aggressive, take steps to mellow down or maintain composure as losing control over your mounting aggressiveness is a surefire sign of trouble ahead.
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