Anger management and reduction

By Eddy Kong Wai W

We all know or have an idea as to what anger is. This raw emotion has been the cause of a lot of misery and arguments in the past. It has ripped apart many partnerships, created rifts in friendships, as well as distrust between co-workers and professionals alike. But did you know that when used properly, anger can do the exact opposite of what was mentioned above? Together with rational thought, anger can be used to accomplish things which would otherwise be impossible under normal circumstances, set things straight, as well as get yourself heard, and all without having to step on anyone’s foot.

But controlling your anger might not be as easy as it sounds. Remember that anger can be an addicting emotion. Fostering anger for longer times will result to it eating up all of your other emotions, making you a very aggressive and hostile person that no one wants to be around with. In order to manage your anger you will need to take steps in recognizing it first, and to help you with this, here are the top 5 anger problems symptoms that you should take note of:

Mounting aggression: While there may be nothing wrong with being aggressive, it should be under your control at all times. Observe yourself during emotionally straining or physically threatening times, when you start to feel that you are becoming more and more aggressive, take steps to mellow down or maintain composure as losing control over your mounting aggressiveness is a surefire sign of trouble ahead.
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By Antionette R Tate

I work at a group home with high-risk youth and I deal with negative behaviors on a daily basis. The youth that I counsel are usually angry because they are displaced from their families and many of them have not yet developed the skills that they need to manage their anger. The two techniques that we use at the group home to help the youth cope with their anger are: 1) Take a time out and 2) Journal

The Three Levels of Anger

There are three major levels of anger that you should teach your child to recognize. The first level is when they are relaxed and calm. The relaxed stage is the ideal stage and this is the stage that you want to try to get your child to maintain at all times. The second level is when your child starts to display signs that they are starting to get irritated. The third level is when your child reaches the explosive stage. The explosive stage is the stage that you would like to avoid because this is the stage when they lose control and their actions may lead to negative consequences.

#1 Take a Time Out

One technique that you can use to teach your child to how to calm down when they feel like they are becoming irritated or annoyed is to ask them to use their time out coping skill. Make sure that you have established a designated time out spot prior to giving your child a time out. The time out space can be the bed room, a corner that the child has decorated or just another room that is away from everyone else. When you give your child a time out, it going to be important that your child understands that they are not being punished.
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